Self love & Relationships

I read something this week that hit me like a ton of bricks.

“Life is not black and white. Loving yourself won’t save you from having issues in relationships.” - Nedra Tawwab

In the last year I’ve been putting in the work to give myself the love and worth I deserve. I am very thankful for my therapist for guiding me in this healing process/journey. It has not been easy, far from it actually. Some days I feel like I’ve taken 100 steps back and other times I feel proud of my progress.

Something I forget in the midst of my self love journey is that issues will still come up in the relationships I have with others. And those issues are not a reflection of my self worth. I’ll admit I can be very black or white about certain things like if I don’t like someone from the get go… chances are that’s never going to change lol. But this topic is one I have to be more open minded because if not I will just hurt myself in the process. I have to separate the two: loving myself does not guarantee I will not encounter issues in relationships.

Ultimately, I can choose who to keep close in my life and who to keep at an arms length. Loving someone from a distance is sometimes better than forcing a connection that is just not there and perhaps never will be.

This holiday season don’t be afraid of doing things a little different. Don’t force relationships with people that don’t deserve that access to you. You are worth being surrounded by people that have genuine intentions for you.

Because her concert is less than a week away and I can’t contain my joy to see her live.

My fav part:

Cause there's something in the way that the moon is hitting
That's making you look like you could be more than just a friend
Yeah, more than just a friend

And fear was in the way, but the mood is hitting
And it's making you look like you could be more than just a friend